Romance & Relationship · Fraud Guide

Friendship / Social Media Scam

Also known as: Facebook Friend Scam, Social Media Con, Platonic Catfishing
HIGH
Severity
$1,000–$50,000
Typical Loss
156
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Who is targeted: Older adults who are socially isolated, recently widowed, or active on social media. Scammers target people seeking companionship — not romance, but genuine friendship.
Friendship scams are a growing subset of relationship fraud that often go unreported because victims feel embarrassed about being manipulated through a non-romantic relationship.
① Awareness ② Prevention ③ Detection ④ Recovery
Phase 1
Awareness

Not every friend request is friendly.

Friendship scams begin when someone reaches out on social media and builds what feels like a genuine, platonic connection. They're attentive, they remember details about your life, they check in regularly. Over weeks or months, trust builds. Then a financial request emerges. The 'friend' was never real.

How It Works

1
A stranger sends a friend request on Facebook, Instagram, or a game app. Their profile looks real.
2
They engage in regular conversation, building rapport over days or weeks.
3
The relationship feels genuine. They may send small gifts or share personal stories.
4
Eventually, a crisis emerges: a medical bill, a stranded family member, a business deal.
5
Money is requested — often via gift cards, wire transfer, or payment apps.
6
Once paid, more requests follow. If the victim resists, the scammer uses guilt.

Tell-Tale Signs

A new online friend you've never met in person asks for money.
They always have a reason they can't video chat or meet face to face.
Their social media profile was recently created or has very few real connections.
They share intense personal stories very quickly to accelerate bonding.
They discourage you from telling family about the friendship or the financial request.

Phase 2
Prevention

Staying safe while staying social.

Be cautious with friend requests from people you don't know.
Check their profile: when was it created? Do they have mutual friends? Are their photos consistent?
Never send money to someone you've only met online.
No matter how well you think you know them, if you haven't met in person, treat any financial request as a red flag.
Talk to family or friends about new online relationships.
An outside perspective can spot patterns you might miss when you're emotionally invested.
Do a reverse image search on their profile photos.
Scammers typically use stolen photos. A reverse search can reveal if the photos appear on other profiles.
Keep your social media profiles private.
Limit what strangers can see. The more personal information is public, the easier it is for scammers to build a convincing connection.

Phase 3
Detection

Signs a friendship may not be what it seems.

Warning Signals

🔍 Your online friend has asked for money or financial help.
🔍 They become upset or guilt-tripping when you hesitate or say no.
🔍 They always have an excuse for why they can't meet in person or video chat.
🔍 They know a lot about you but share very little verifiable information about themselves.
🔍 Other people in your life express concern about the relationship.

What To Do Right Now

Stop sending money immediately.
Do not share any additional financial or personal information.
Talk to a trusted family member or friend about the situation.
Report the profile to the social media platform.
Report at ic3.gov.

Phase 4
Recovery

Recovery after a friendship scam.

Financial Recovery

Contact your bank or the payment service used.
If gift cards were used, contact the issuing companies.
File a report at ic3.gov and reportfraud.ftc.gov.
Place a fraud alert on your credit reports if you shared personal information.

Emotional Recovery

Friendship scams cause real grief — you're mourning a relationship that felt genuine.
You were targeted because you are kind and trusting. That is a quality to be proud of.
Contact the National Elder Fraud Hotline at 833-372-8311.

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▶ VIDEO FOX NASHVILLE · 2024-05-04
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▶ VIDEO Forbes Breaking News · 2024-09-18
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▶ VIDEO FTCvideos · 2024-11-18
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▶ VIDEO NBC4 Columbus · 2024-12-17
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▶ VIDEO 5NEWS · 2025-02-24
The FBI is seeking additional victims of Aurora Phelps, a 43-year-old Las Vegas woman arrested in Mexico and charged with a years-long romance scam targeting older men between 2021 and 2022. Using aliases on dating apps like Tinder and OkCupid, Phelps lured at least four elderly victims, accessed their bank accounts, and allegedly drugged one victim into a coma while three others died; she faces 21 counts including bank fraud, identity theft, and kidnapping, with one charge involving transporting a heavily sedated victim across the U.S.-Mexico border in a wheelchair.
▶ VIDEO FOX 5 Atlanta · 2025-08-20
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menafn.com · 2025-12-08
Singapore recorded over 46,000 scam cases in 2023, resulting in losses of 651.8 million Singapore dollars (approximately 484 million U.S. dollars), a slight decrease from 2022. The most prevalent scam types were job scams, e-commerce scams, fake friend call scams, phishing scams, and investment scams. Police conducted 24 enforcement activities that led to the investigation of more than 9,600 money mules and scam suspects.
straitstimes.com · 2025-12-08
In 2023, Singapore reported a record high of 46,563 scam cases with victims losing $651.8 million, marking a 46.8 percent increase in cases from 2022 despite public warnings. Job scams were the most prevalent fraud type, followed by e-commerce scams (which more than doubled), with 73 percent of victims aged below 50, contrary to assumptions that elderly people are most vulnerable. The police attributed most scams to organized criminal groups operating transnationally and noted that 19 scam syndicates were dismantled in 2023 through international cooperation.
todayonline.com · 2025-12-08
In 2023, scam cases in Singapore surged 49.6 percent to 50,376 total cases, with Facebook, WhatsApp, and Instagram identified as the primary platforms used by scammers to contact victims. Job scams became the most prevalent type with 9,914 cases (up 52.7 percent from 2022), followed by investment scams, while adults aged 30-49 represented the largest victim demographic; notably, despite increased case numbers, total losses decreased slightly to S$651.8 million (down 1.3 percent) and average loss per case dropped 32.8 percent to S$13,999.
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